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this is a difficult exercise and less fun, but it’s very important and i’m grateful for the opportunity to work through “what can i possibly think of that i can actually hold on to? something concrete?” So, for now i’ll begin by saying people aren’t always nice; sometimes they’re mean on purpose and that corresponds to a reactive tendency in me that i’ve noticed. Meaning, i tend to get flustered and caught up in their desire to erupt, sustain and pursue drama; i think i freeze up emotionally and adopt an almost non-interactive, or rather non-emotional stance of trying to talk it through to have ‘peace love and understanding’, although people aren’t always interested in that while the desire for drama is active (or even after, if ever). but i truly do think now, since the first Lab’s exercise, that this reactive tendency has also been brought to light as a result of the altruistic sneakiness of caring observation…. i heard about not fueling a fire, an empty boat or wtv other analogy, but since the previous exercise, i always thought participating was justified, since “on my end, i’m simply trying to arrive at a peaceful moment to talk, resolve and find a solution”… So, my conclusion for now is twofold: a) when applicable irl, take into account what triggers another person and refrain from doing what ‘unjustifiably’ triggers the other person in the first place and b) no need to talk/work through or try to resolve that type of eruption; and i suppose c) i can care with my heart (and cry a bit, as now, since it’s sad how others get this way at times) instead of freezing up in my emotions (i suppose i’m scared when others erupt). i think c) is perhaps most important of all, being scared and freezing up…. if i don’t get scared, that type of extreme situation may be more manageable…. maybe with being quiet, the other person just needs to ‘blow off steam’ and then it’s over. idk, seems sad and i wish it never would happen ever
We can foster stronger bonds in our relationships by becoming more self-aware and acknowledging our individual egos, desires, and impulses when conflicts arise. Shared spaces are built on a mutual desire for love and connection above our individual differences and desires through open communication, choosing to rise above our automatic responses. By focusing on kindness, empathy, and understanding towards each other, we can nurture our relationships and transform them into deeper and more meaningful connections.
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