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Dear Gianni,
I hope you are well. I want to share honestly what I’m going through and ask for your guidance. Lately I’m experiencing a deep urgency to be complete. I don’t want to remain “half a desire.” This urgency feels spiritual but also painful: I worry that I might not use this lack to give contentment to the Creator, and that terrifies me.
I see our society as very fragmented: most people aim only for comfort and simple pleasures, not for purpose. That reality increases my anxiety because marriage, a serious, spiritual marriage, seems almost impossible given all the social patterns (dating games, long tests, focus on pleasure). I feel like I’m in darkness and confusion; I long for the commandment of marriage but I don’t know how to fulfill it in these conditions.
I would greatly appreciate your guidance on practical and spiritual steps: how to convert this urgency into true Lishma work; how to avoid using people to fill an urgent need; how to prepare the vessel correctly so that, if marriage arrives, it is for the Creator and the group; and what to do now while I feel in descent, or any other advice you think I should keep in mind.
Ok I understood so a Kabbalist doesn’t pray like others he just has to fill his vessel with the upper light then everything will be rectified .But they teached us 72 names of God in Kabbalah it is not for used them in prayer?please Sir I want to know more details.Thank you very much.
Each name of the Creator is the form of corrected, connected vessel. We are the broken pieces of the vessel, in a completely shattered state. I have to first come to connection with others in a Kabbalistic group, like in our graduate program, and then discover all the forms of connection there. To just say the words, read the letters, benefits a person no more than the silk benefits a camel that carries it.
If we were in a small community together, for sure we’d find you a wife on the path. In our situation, it’s not possible. But all the friends I’ve seen that really wanted a wife, eventually found one. Some took longer than others. It depends on the man’s true desire for it but also his willingness to correct himself. He should look for someone whose highest goal in life – meaning the goal to which all others are subservient – is the same as his. If it’s to be wealthy, then he should find a woman for whom that is most important, for example. Then, she will help him achieve that goal, if he listens to her. As it is said, “Abraham, listen to Sarah.” He has to be ready to accept a woman that is appropriate for him, according to what I’ve said in other posts – which I heard from my teacher and guided me as well. And to get rid of all kinds of other standards about women that society has imposed. He also has to correct himself so that he has a career and can support himself at least. What stands in one’s way usually is that he somehow doesn’t want to make some basic corrections, doesn’t want to keep the Creator’s commandment that the laws of nature – of this world – are the Creator’s laws. If all he wants beyond the foundational necessities of life is to reach the Creator, then if he needs a wife to do that, he will find one if takes appropriate steps to do so.
Please enlighten me on this, the four face of creation Hochma, bina, zeir Anpin , malchot. Does this mean the still level, vegetative level, animate level and human level?
Well, we have to live in the world the way it is now. But in the past, they showed you a person, you met once, twice. You married. For example, Rabash’s wife saw him from afar. She agreed to marry him, thinking he was the taller of the pair she’d seen walking. He was tiny. Anyway, they were nevertheless married for about 60 years until she died. After that, he told Rav Laitman, “You have to find me a wife.” He didn’t care much who. Because for him it was a law, he had to be married, though he was already over 80 years old. And we’re talking about one with unimaginably high spiritual attainment. He didn’t do too many calculations. You must be not repulsed. And she must somehow remind him of his mother, how she cared for him and so on. After that, love is a beast that is fed by concessions. That’s how you build it. It can’t be some relationship that is without a marriage certificate. And all the rest that people call dating, is all games I’m playing with myself. But that’s how everyone’s playing these days, seemingly because it’s more beneficial this way. But in the end, that’s not a modern approach, but an ancient one – ancient like our animal state. You know, like bunnies, insects. Later, in the future, it will be like it was in the past, and that will be understood to epitomize and optimize that desire. Again, we can’t recommend anything, but just for you to understand how Kabbalists think in their heads and what they consider a serious approach.
Good morning sir, my question is that, I was trying to work on the two keys I found in the book of Zohar which says, we are all connected as one and to enter the Zohar we need to love our neighbor as ourselves, and we need to have the intention to give, so my question is that are you still talking about inner world here or you’re talking about the physical world? When I try to apply it physically it looks like am pleasing the other. Please enlighten me on it
These are the things you need to do inside, in your feeling. To hug someone on the outside is easy; to love them, want the best for them – this is impossible because my nature is to want the best for me, and not others unless that will benefit me somehow. In other words, the miracle we need is to be given the quality of bestowal, love.
In Kabbalah it is said that a single man is “half a desire.” What does this mean in terms of one’s inner spiritual work?
It means half his desire that he needs to reach the spiritual goal is not even in him, but in another; and so eventually he needs to connect with that desire to reach the goal.
Is it possible someone to be sometime connected with all things and sometimes disconnected for it, the purpose of my question is that yesterday I felt connected with all thing around me people, place, threes almost everything, the feeling is like am in the world but at the same time the world is in me, and today I was trying to connect with the same feeling but I can’t, please enlighten me on it, thanks
Is it better to focus my efforts on correcting my relation with the friends and with the Creator, even while remaining a “half a desire,” and trust that the other half (a partner) will come at the right time? Should I be in a hurry to find a partner in order to be complete, or is it more important to work with what the Creator has given me in this moment?
Work with what the Creator has given. Getting a partner doesn’t take time or focus. It’s not like people think in our world – that I need to go on dates every Friday and Saturday night, live together for a few years, etc. It only takes alignment with the right goal and understanding why I need a partner – and then I’ll find one. Then I get married as soon as possible without all the imaginary nonsense. Of course, I also need a steady job with a reasonable income – and this may take time if a person has disregarded this basic necessity, until now. The Creator has determined these foundations and requirements. To keep them for the reason that I need them to attain the spiritual goal is already a spiritual action.
I didn’t know that the Torah was a Kabbalah book. Since I have been studying, not all of the Jewish community doesn’t recognize Kabbalah. P. S. Rosh Rashanah
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