What makes it so difficult for us to agree with the results of the research on pro-social spending that was presented in the lesson?

[KabU]

What makes it so difficult for us to agree with the results of the research on pro-social spending that was presented in the lesson?

[Purity K]

The lack of love and caring for one another and wanting everything for oneself by all means necessary even at the expense of others.

[Eva]

I find it easy to agree. I find a great joy of spending time and effort to understand people, listen to them and bring comfort into their lives by being present in very difficult situations; this goes beyond spending money, I just have to be conscious that money is a tool, an energy resource that flows to support me with this type of joy. I have to have the ability, strength,  health to make the money, and then use it as a fuel for supporting me in finding the joy in connection. Still egoistic, I know, but discovered this joy “by accident” as a grocery store worker about 10 years ago (story available if anybody interested 😉) and keeps developing as my job now is supporting people with disabilities and their families in everyday life,  connecting and practicing empathy, compassion, understanding, strength and problem solving through observation in everyday situation. Parallel to that, I am attempting building our broken family back together – adult children gone in wrong ways, painfully realizing what I lacked as a parent when they were younger, thinking I was giving them good parenting. Luckily I have my husband as “partner in crime” 100% and have the mutual support for each other in this difficult situation. It all comes down to me, that there is a deep joy in seeing human development where it is almost impossible, also seeking out connections – egoistically of course, I know – where I feel safe to build strength and goodness through vulnerability, and always moving away from situations where that is not possible … haha, desire to receive in full action! Desire to give it away and share it even greater! Looking forward what comes next.

[Maria]

I have no difficulty agreeing, as I have felt exactly what the researchers says. I loved to give and spent my time, money, etc. on people. As I used to say: “I prefered to spend on creating moments than on material things”. The problem is that I wasn’t aware of the fact that I prefered that because my will to receive was not after material goods, but after recognition and human connections; and when I didn’t get them I felt hurt or dissappointed. I’m saying more than I would had chosen, but it’s my most honest answer.

[Rae]

I’ve experienced great joy when able to spend time and money on others- but to be honest – these were only “my” kids. I overspent on them as it turned out and this caused problems 😂

Still, those are some of my happiest moments of my life, thus far. And I’ve enjoyed since then volunteering when I had no money and those I helped had even less.  I learned that one has to have a certain amount of money to learn ( by mistake) what to do with it. And egoism will always have its way so that enough is never enough…

Short answer: egoism (doing what it does throughout the social network)

[Peter]

I don’t find it so hard to believe that this pro-social spending would make me a bit more happy. It is hard though, to imagine that it would make me much happier.

[johan semloh]

Our “will to receive” remains intact and continues to be our primary point of operation socially.

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