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Hi Gianni,
There is a part in the book “Wondrous Wisdom”:
“…This is an exceptionally hard axiom to grasp. As a teacher of Kabbalah, I find most beginning students struggle with such a concept. I instantly receive a litany of examples from students trying to show that the above statement is dead wrong. Some of these examples include the millions of people who give to charities every day, a man throwing himself on a hand grenade during a war to save kids, Mother Theresa building orphanages for children, the list is virtually endless. Yet when I ask them why they think these people did what they did, the final answer is not “to save kids’ lives.” It’s because the person who did the deed felt it was the right thing to do. In other words, in these people’s judgment, the correct act was determined to be exactly what they did. In fact, each person in each example was doing something that may even have had a negative impact or caused great sacrifice for themselves, but they would not have been happy with any other action. For instance, in the hand grenade example, the soldier had placed the value of the children’s lives above his own, therefore making it impossible not to perform the act he did. The will to receive pleasure is so powerful that it can even override instant gratification, such as safety or money, for a greater pleasure to be received in the future. At the end of the day, if we have any stake in an outcome, if we calculated ways to achieve this result, our will to receive made that decision…”
And I can so much relate to that, it is exactly as I feel. I couldn’t do it any other way, I felt it was the right thing to do, even if it meant I would be damaged in whatever way, and it almost looks suicidal.
So, I feel like with that “pre-installed” will to receive that is willing to “damage” itself and put last for the sake of others is in a way much harder to work with, as I can never tell if it’s my “pre-installed” will to receive or I really want to bestow and love the friends. It’s like an unconscious impulse from the inside to help someone, be their doormat, so I am in agony. What should I do here? What is the scrutiny to detect the ego and what should I do then? I really do want all the best for my friends, I am willing to disappear completely for their sake, and I can’t go deeper and detect the ego behind this.
Can you please, please help me out of this limbo?
Thank you so much in advance!
Hi Gianni,
We are talking about coarseness of a desire, but the more I try to understand, the less I understand it. What does it mean? Should the desire become more or less coarse?
Thank you so much!
Hi Gianni,
I have few unrelated questions, and I hope you don’t mind me putting them all in one 🙂
1. We are suppose to go through states quickly, in and out, just acknowledging the state and move on. But where is the scrutiny there? I need to dwell in a state for a while to be able to understand and scrutinize. And how do I know what is the next state that I am supposed to move on to, when I can barely understand the state I am in?
2. I’ve read that reaching the Gate of Tears is a one-time event. What does that mean exactly? Where does that Gate lead?
3. In one of your videos, you mention 4 forces that rule the World. Could you please point out somewhere I can read more about that? I was very much drawn to that 🙂
4. I cannot fully grasp the idea of someone who is not a particularly likable person being a bestower. And to be honest, I don’t really like to mingle and talk to people, although I do it since we need to show the love, but I can’t do that for a long time, so I think that could be a solution for me, because I do want to become a bestowed, but at the same time I do want to avoid “human contact” let’s say. And I don’t know what I am asking exactly, so can you please guide me a bit here?
Thank you very much in advance!
Hi Gianni,
I’ve been thinking that when I am in descent, I can feel and describe all the nuances to the tiniest detail (that I can see at the moment) and how they are connected and flow from one to another, but it’s impossible for me to do the same in an ascent. In an ascent, I am blank, although I feel good and fulfilled, I am blank, no nuances, no discernment, nothing… and after a short while, I feel lost. So, I am starting not to be very fond of ascents, I feel foolish.
Can you please help me figure this out?
Thank you in advance!
Hi Gianni,
At the last two Congresses, I started noticing something that really got me thinking. I see many Tens close to each other, but very inconsiderate of the others around them, and that can only be because they got close as people, like a tight social group, not a spiritual one; and probably that trap is there for everyone, so how to avoid it? How to make sure we come closer as a spiritual Ten, not as a regular social group? It’s really nice to become close socially too, but the emphasis here should be on the spiritual, and I for one have issues with that and don’t know how to handle that…
Thank you in advance!
