Share something from the lesson that you found insightful, or share your impressions from the exercise.

I like that a relationship is like a lab.

I agree with everything shared as a married woman for 33 years and couples thereapsit

I am married 33 years and have been a couples therapist for 33 years.  I fully agree with everything shared!

it took a few tries irl to do the exercise and sometimes i don’t exactly do it completely, but, even then, i’m aware of what’s going on more; So, when i do succeed to a certain degree: first of all, it’s like a quiet observer’s private secret (and kind of fun, altruistic sneakiness? lol); secondly, i noticed that nothing really changes if i don’t interfere with the moment’s flow; meaning: i used to think certain interactions or “decisions” etc were each time very worthy of attention and standing up for what i thought was right (or what i thought i wanted). Ultimately, it doesn’t seem to matter most of the time and somewhat curiously, perhaps, my special someone has been happier. Oh! and i liked especially the idea of our special shared space/moments and i laughed when i realized that they can be literally any mundane activity, as banal as can be, but… the “quiet observer’s private secret” mentioned above is like a floating awareness of love and harmony… that, maybe is ‘bestowing’ ? although not really giving anything in particular; just room to breathe and be happy (which doesn’t seem so insignificant after all).  and finally, it’s not really like this, but seems a bit like baby-sitting a toddler, enjoying their exploration and experience of their expanding inner joy… but ! this is very new, so, we’ll have to see how it develops… thanks for this Lab for personal growth. i look forward to continuing and hoping for the best

I believe that our relationships are like a classroom. Each one teaching g is more and more about ourselves and the world around us.