Share something from the lesson that you found insightful, or share your impressions from the exercise.

[Tal Mandelbaum]

Share something from the lesson that you found insightful, or share your impressions from the exercise.

[Pradeep]

You can only fix your relationship by fixing yourself. When you set out to fix your relationship by fixing your partner first, that is a lost cause. Fix yourself first, and fix how you perceive your partner and you are on the path to a more fulfilling relationship.

[Stephanie]

I like the idea that the relationship is a vessel that teaches us how to have better relationships in general

[Mel Farrell]

I am single and it could be nice to be in a secure healthy relationship. Sadly I have experienced some abusive behaviour and have had to take a step back. I hear that you are saying that it all starts with me. Some behaviours in others I am not responsible for and cannot change. I can however relate to changing my perspective on other’s behaviour in some of my other fraternal relationships though.

[Rade]

I am surprised how many people  are single and how less we know about  love and healthy relationship.

Also i can feel how Hollywood and other media also books have influenced us. We really need help with this topic especially men.

 

 

 

 

[Jo]

This exercise begs the question of how to apply this to parent/child relationships as you are trying to shape their thinking and behavior. They were indeed my most trying and humbling relationships, brought me to my knees, literally and figuratively. I adopted them from an orphanage, and they were already shattered by grief and loss. Sometimes their behavior was almost feral.
Judging from this first lesson we are to examine our perceptions and expectations. In my situation I had to examine every perception of parenthood I ever had, as they did not respond the way most kids do to anything, even to being loved and wanted. I failed often. If I could do over again I would try to be more patient – to love first, listen second, guide third, and want only for their happiness. When I did calm my impatience or aggravation and listen, I was often amazed at the wisdom that would come from these two young people whose lives had been so turned upside down by tragedy.

[Manuela]

The power of recognising how I project my expectation on my partner. And how this is related to my personal perception and does not leave space for a mutual understanding.

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