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I understand the importance of “love thy neighbor as thyself” and the quality of Chesed. I think my question revolves around also establishing the quality of Gevurah and healthy boundaries. For example if you are interacting with a person with NPD- real narcissistic personality disorder. These people act like parasites, so if I were to look at nature, parasites have the function of helping species establish stronger defense mechanisms over time. A person with NPD will always say that you are selfish and wrong no matter what, so in this case would it be true to say that you could listen to them as Hashem speaking, to find the places where you are also narcissistic or the form in which you are selfish but to also accept them as a force that is helping you to establish boundaries? Is agreement always necessary or can the reverse be true? Or maybe both are true like I just presented?
Hi Inbar,
I know there’s books and methods that talk this way, but the Sefirot do not clothe upon our psychological tendencies in the ways you’re describing. They’re sublime forces, after the spiritual Barrier. We will advance by being clear-eyed about what’s really before me: egoists. And for the most part it’s the simple selfish ego widespread in the animal kingdom plus, in addition, humans actually enjoy hurting each other. That’s our broken nature, nothing to do about it. And nothing to learn from it except this, to a greater and greater extent, until I realize unequivocally that the world is this way through and through, and thus there’s no one I can change but me. And if I change – through the study of Kabbalah – I’ll also see that the world has changed, precisely to the extent of my inner change.
Interesting. I look forward to understanding more, I think I’ve been conditioned to look for meaning in another’s egoistic tendencies, but the lesson is that we are all ego? And then I understand that I will begin to work on myself only through the group and then perceive the world differently as the light works on me. I just don’t understand how that will happen yet since I’m conditioned to reframe a perception through the intellect. So I think that whatever I thought I understood, I actually understand even less now, lol. 😂
I’m struggling with the diagram used in video 3.3, at about the 6 minute mark, designed to convey the dynamic between my GE and the group’s AHD as I strive to connect with the unmet needs of the group. Try as I might, it doesn’t help me understand this concept at all. Is there another diagram or explanation that I could access to help me get the point? Thanks.
That’s because for now we’re missing these vessels. When this sensor develops it will make sense. Kabbalists usually didn’t draw – these are some hints in the direction we need to work, which is in the direction of bestowal to others. The vessels develop by the Upper Light, after we put in sufficient effort.
Hello, Gianni & friends,
On Sunday 28th November, there was a very interesting & relevant KabU podcaste and Q&A by Marcos & (?).     It s very much in line with where we are at on this course & the next, where we start to practice in our 10, stressing the importance of this work. Ystar-El must be in harmony = our group
I m asking a similar question to sj.  In my everyday life, at the moment, the disharmony around me seems to be escalating, & I m wondering if this has been designed by the Creator to push me towards the group of 10?
If the group can recreate that harmony, is it likely to follow that my everyday life will also get back into balance?
Thank You !
There’s a very complex system over us, so we can’t make it simple like that. But the principle is that we’re shattered. In that shattering, we feel bad. Doesn’t matter in which form because it will come in a form that we’ll feel it, according to our vessel. If we move toward connection, the Light works and corrects the shattering. The place I can actually move toward connection is in a ten. Well, actually even listening to those podcasts you mention is in the direction because they move a person out of the natural thoughts of themselves.
All possible goodness. If I truly attain Adhesion, this world becomes like one’s dreams are relative to one’s so-called real life. One knows for sure that that’s not real, and never was. All the previous suffering is mitigated in this new light, we see that it wasn’t even suffering. No one ever suffered, and the Creator is only the Good and Does Good.
Sometimes I’m frightened to come to class or watch the related videos… for some reason there are times that it fills me with an intense anxiety, I get a very real fear of death, and I wonder if this method is truly for me… but I know that it’s my ego. I don’t know how else to describe it… Is just that my ego afraid of dying or being absorbed into the group?
If I may add, both my mother and father have a history of drug and alcohol abuse. I have a 3 year old daughter and last night I had a glass of wine with my dinner. Not even half way through the glass when I feel the alcohol beginning to affect my sensation I got very uncomfortable as I wouldn’t want my daughter to have memories of me being intoxicated, or, G-d forbid, I raise my voice to her in her manic, tired state while under the influence. Such a thought is enough to illicit immense anxiety in me as all I can think about is how my parents were powerless to their whims… and I put the cup down and I don’t finish it.
My point is that both feelings are very similar, if not the same… anxiety at being even REMOTELY tipsy before my child and the feeling of coming to the class and being apart of the lectures… it’s an acute sensation of mortality and it’s not pleasant at all.
Maybe my question is how can I differentiate or am I supposed to differentiate between what I feel to be a bad decision that can be of harm that I’m supposed to listen to so as to not bring death and destruction into this world, and the ego that’s afraid of it’s own death and is filling me with anxiety which I need to overcome?Hi Jarret,
I need to stick the wisdom of Kabbalah, which is our area of expertise, and not venture into other realms such as psychology and medicine. First, so that we will not say redundant things that a psychologist or doctor could surely advise about; but more importantly, to delineate a clear line, where Kabbalah begins. Because at this line, all other wisdoms end.
What I can tell you is that the ego does not die. I don’t leave my family or my pleasures in life. Naturally, my ego resists the wisdom of Kabbalah because my ego does not wish to work in this direction. Thus, the ego is doing its job, which is to be a resistor, like you have in electrical systems or the spokes going backward in a bicycle. However, you state that you experience this phenomenon in situations that are unrelated to this study; so, it follows that it’s not one that is exclusive to your study of Kabbalah, and not necessarily related directly to it.
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