[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

Dear Gianni,

I hope you are well. I want to share honestly what I’m going through and ask for your guidance. Lately I’m experiencing a deep urgency to be complete. I don’t want to remain “half a desire.” This urgency feels spiritual but also painful: I worry that I might not use this lack to give contentment to the Creator, and that terrifies me.

I see our society as very fragmented: most people aim only for comfort and simple pleasures, not for purpose. That reality increases my anxiety because marriage, a serious, spiritual marriage, seems almost impossible given all the social patterns (dating games, long tests, focus on pleasure). I feel like I’m in darkness and confusion; I long for the commandment of marriage but I don’t know how to fulfill it in these conditions.

I would greatly appreciate your guidance on practical and spiritual steps: how to convert this urgency into true Lishma work; how to avoid using people to fill an urgent need; how to prepare the vessel correctly so that, if marriage arrives, it is for the Creator and the group; and what to do now while I feel in descent, or any other advice you think I should keep in mind.

[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

What do you mean by getting married without all the imaginary nonsense?

[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

What do you mean by without all the imaginary nonsense?

[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

In Shamati 1, the right and left hands are described as two approaches in the work. Can these also be seen as the states of ascents and descents, or are they a different kind of discernment?

[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

Thank you, dear Friend!

[Daniel Alvarez Grisales]

Since lo lishma means working not for the sake of the Creator but for another purpose, would directing my efforts in the spiritual path toward finding a partner also fall under lo lishma? And if so, is it still a valid stage of progress?

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