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Well, we have to live in the world the way it is now. But in the past, they showed you a person, you met once, twice. You married. For example, Rabash’s wife saw him from afar. She agreed to marry him, thinking he was the taller of the pair she’d seen walking. He was tiny. Anyway, they were nevertheless married for about 60 years until she died. After that, he told Rav Laitman, “You have to find me a wife.” He didn’t care much who. Because for him it was a law, he had to be married, though he was already over 80 years old. And we’re talking about one with unimaginably high spiritual attainment. He didn’t do too many calculations. You must be not repulsed. And she must somehow remind him of his mother, how she cared for him and so on. After that, love is a beast that is fed by concessions. That’s how you build it. It can’t be some relationship that is without a marriage certificate. And all the rest that people call dating, is all games I’m playing with myself. But that’s how everyone’s playing these days, seemingly because it’s more beneficial this way. But in the end, that’s not a modern approach, but an ancient one – ancient like our animal state. You know, like bunnies, insects. Later, in the future, it will be like it was in the past, and that will be understood to epitomize and optimize that desire. Again, we can’t recommend anything, but just for you to understand how Kabbalists think in their heads and what they consider a serious approach.

• This reply was modified 3 months, 1 week ago by Gianni - KabU Instructor.

These are the things you need to do inside, in your feeling. To hug someone on the outside is easy; to love them, want the best for them – this is impossible because my nature is to want the best for me, and not others unless that will benefit me somehow. In other words, the miracle we need is to be given the quality of bestowal, love.

How do I manage to penetrate in the quality of bestow and is there anything I need to be doing in order to reach the saga of bestow, because I’ve been trying to work with this two law and it seems like am in my head,

It means half his desire that he needs to reach the spiritual goal is not even in him, but in another; and so eventually he needs to connect with that desire to reach the goal.

Of course. The sages wrote about nothing but the spiritual world – that is, about Kabbalah. But they did so in 4 languages, one of which is the language of the Torah.

I don’t know. There cannot be many variations of physics or chemistry, and the laws of the Upper World are further laws of nature that do no leave room for variability – and so the answer is no: a path could be more accurate or less, but there cannot be many correct paths. That’s why a person has to put all their eggs in one basket: choose where their heart tells them is best, and once decided, stick with that place and that teacher until the end.