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    Gil
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    • #444261
      Bonnie
      Participant

      The lesson on Free Will Part 2 was especially phenomenal!  It totally blew my mind and changed my entire perspective on the Reforming Light and my intent by responding to please the Creator and not the corporeal ego.  Awesome lesson!

    • #443896
      Bonnie
      Participant

      I have a family member that I confronted about a situation that I tried to be discreet about, however , it didn’t come across that way and they became very offended with me.  I did apologize and asked for forgiveness but they never accepted my apologies.  This person holds grudges even though they are very religious.  My question is, how do I try to make things right when they won’t speak to me.  I would love to have a face to face conversation with them but I live in another state.  In order to bestow loving kindness and peace between us, is it appropriate to write a letter to clarify my position since they took what I said out of context?   Thank you for responding!

      • #443900

        Though it seems related, this is completely unrelated to the wisdom of Kabbalah because with those who are in your family you do not have even the beginnings of a spiritual relationship. I have with my family essentially the equivalent of what lions or monkeys have. If you get along, it won’t bring spiritual benefit; if you don’t, it won’t bring spiritual harm. Spirituality is another dimension entirely. Better to not even connect the two. On the level of this world, family and such, you don’t need spiritual advice. In fact, the most spiritual will be to behave there as if there is no spirituality, no Kabbalah. Then, decide what would be the best, most normal, effective approach to this person? To what efforts on your part would they respond well? Once you’ve made the scrutinies, along these lines, and your efforts, it could be that you can’t have a relationship with them, for now.

    • #443260
      Aguinaldo
      Participant

      Hello dear KabU team, my health issues turned me to kabbalah, I know that this is not medicine, but I would like to know how I should take advantage of this wisdom to improve my health.

      • #443271

        Hi Aguinaldo,

        It doesn’t work that way. Problems are sent to awaken a person, to ask what this life is for. If the problem disappears, I stop asking. If I don’t need problems, because I’m already running toward the goal of life, then perhaps there is a different calculation made with me, from Above. But the moment I stop chasing the goal of life, a whole system designed to bring me to it, goes to work.

        In short, you can’t use Kabbalah for any purpose accept to attain the goal of life.

    • #442661
      Pradeep
      Participant

      Hi Gianni,

      I am very confused by the article Shamati 11: Joy with Trembling.

      >> Where there is love, there should also be fear.

      In the daily lesson on June 17th, Rav says: “Usually, we are in one of these states. Else we can not advance. One completes the other.”

      Shouldn’t faith beyond reason mean faith over fear? Why would it be a requirement to have fear in order to have love for the friends or the Creator if there is none else besides Him?

      Regards – Pradeep

      • #442738

        Hi Pradeep,

        These are all good, necessary things. We need fear to reach love. Before I can reach love, which will require fear in order to hold onto the love, I need to start with fear that I’m not taking care of the ten, I’m not sufficiently pushing them toward the goal, soon they will fall from the connection, or if we’re connected, we’re not connected enough. Until I’m worrying for this, all the way to the point of connection on the degree of Gmar Tikun, the fear is not enough – and it wouldn’t matter if I reached the degree of love as I would not be able to hold onto it without establishing fear first.

    • #441077
      Joseph
      Participant

      Hi Gianni,
      I heard Rav Laitman mention at the end of the convention that some Tens are ready to connect with other Tens, but not all. How can we discern if our Ten is truly ready for this step? We feel united in our inner connection and have a sincere yearning to begin connecting with another Ten. But is this enough?

      • #441167
        Joseph
        Participant

        Thank you Gianni, this reply helps greatly.

      • #441136

        If you knew your proximity to the goal you might give up, or on the contrary, run toward it egoistically. In other words, you couldn’t move forward, Above Reason.

        You go, doing all you can, until the end. The Creator knows when the end is.

    • #440920

      One should not exert oneself to find romantic love before developing Love of Friends, right?

      • #440922

        No, no – do whatever you want with romantic love. That’s nothing more than what birds do when the male dances in front of the female. It’s on the animate level. Kabbalah deals with higher things.

        That said, Kabbalists always tried to be married so that the animate body of ours is taken care of and doesn’t bother us about that.

        • #440923

          Ok. Must the other person have spiritual knowledge for the relationship to be successful? Love of fish may be a problem. Nobody likes to be used and left when “the magic” is gone.

        • #440925

          They need to eventually learn that I’m on this path, for life, and a certain amount of my free time will be dedicated to it. And they need to fully support that.

        • #440928

          Support? To accept it? Or more than that?

        • #440929

          Just to support and not be against. They don’t need to study or be actively interested in it.

          Look, I married someone who studied with us, and moreover I actively checked with others to ensure she was solidly a part of it. But that’s not required and may not even be possible for everyone. The standard is what I said: supportive and not against because this is my soul and you can take anything else from me but not this.

        • #440932

          This is an emptiness one feels, right? Should one pray for that person to come to one’s life?

        • #440933

          In the same vector as the spiritual work, one can also do things one needs to practically find someone.

          But to clarify what you want and why, is already, along with the above mentioned, a sort of prayer

           

           

        • #440934

          Wow Thank you very much, dear Gianni. Any tips to “dance” properly? I know that’s on the corporeal level, but maybe I have to keep in mind something you know and I don’t.

        • #440939

          No, the only thing to have in mind is the goal of life. If that’s front of mind, the rest will be correct.

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