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Hi Gianni, I have got a question… which is relating to the process that has been given to us to form this new ten. It´s amazing friends around everywhere. But I don´t feel any ten inside of me or around me anymore, You may say it was supposed to be for the good or in order to challenge the will to receive… whatever… I got lost on that way. Because some friends of my old ten were left behind or struggle, …it´s like that ten we felt we had remains existent, but since not all friends are in this “new ten”… now it´s like being in two tens or in no ten at all…I am trying to just do the work, but I just realise that formula of a ten doesn´t exist in me anymore, I can´t relate to it… and much as I try, I cannot rebuild it… I try of course, as I have been told to do that. But soon as I try to immerse with the new group, I feel those that have been left behind, … it´s like I am supposed to choose which part of the organism I attach to, but I cannot be with both…. …and resultingly I end up nowhere. Which means I feel like I cannot do the work anymore… because I am not part of anything. What is the right thing to do?
I don’t know about the exact situation, but I understand all these feelings when getting assigned a new ten; I’ve been through it a few times. And it’s just that all of you to some extent still disagree with the decision, and you don’t want to let go of your opinion completely. So, it’s like I’m engaged to be married now, but I have this one ex-girlfriend that I’m still thinking about. And each day, I’m checking evaluating my fiancé against the possibility of going back to my ex. So, it turns out that I’m not quite invested because I still have one foot out the door. It’s simply that where the Will to Receive has invested, it remains invested, as it wants its payment for its investment. It’s the same mechanism when you’ve invested in a husband, and for another woman to now acquire him and with him the work you’ve invested in him, you feel a degree of bitterness about that. What is the solution? I invest in my new ten, and to the extent that my investment in them outweighs my investment in my previous ten, I will only focus on my new ten. That’s how it will work, because that’s how we’re built.
Hi Gianni… there is another question… if I really wish to practice love of friends… how do I do that? How do I really see the friends as the most important, how can I truly aim at raising their spirit? I feel there are so many actions we do… posting stuff, going to classes or lessons… but it feels like going with blindfolders and hoping that maybe one of those actions counts. How instead of blindly following the herd can I be a true friend? I feel it‘s a „comfortable“ way to just go to lessons… and it’s a good start… but I could be going there without my heart being there for my friends…just switching my screen on doesn’t mean at all that I would care or connect… I could be formerly there , and still not care. I don’t want that. So… HOW do I connect internally beyond keeping a formal frame of being present in a meeting, lesson etc?
It depends how much I obligate myself internally to be present, tied to them. I have to be actively, proactively annulling myself so that my whole thought and existence is with them and in them, letting what is outside me decide everything for what is inside me. Then, through them, we hear the guidance of the Creator.
Hi Gianni… this might be an awkward question, but I really wonder…. what makes a ten a ten??? I mean… in truth we are all connected, all and everyone. So … does that mean a ten could be with anyone? Is it interchangeable? If yes, then why don’t we keep changing… like in a congress… whoever sits next to us is our ten? Or then on the other hand… why are we being changed? And if any of this happens… how do I know, what is given to me, this is my ten? People are dropping out of tens… I heard people speak a lot about it in the congress. How do I know I am where I am supposed to be? And when is it time to move on? I don’t aim at that… but I understand there is a tendency to form physical tens now.
You know, I am not asking for any organisational reason… I just really try to understand what constitutes a true ten, who may decide about when a ten is a ten, and how I should relate to it- in the awareness that all of humanity is connected anyways, and at the same time most of us cannot relate to it.
In truth, I could work with any ten as my ten. But it’s not mature to change it often. That’s not a serious approach. Like animals that mate whenever wherever with whoever, vs. humans who need to choose one spouse, create a contract. That contract signifies a serious approach. It’s best if some system higher than me decides for me, and I only agree, sign, and stick to it from then on. Then, that “other” (the spouse or the ten) is my place of work. Only I need to change toward them. And I have the foreseeable future to do so.
In the ten? I need to treat every day as brand new. All that happened before, was the Creator. What happens in the future though, is up to us.
Outside of the spiritual group, there are further calculations because that’s the egoistic world where, for example, if I’m seen as a pushover, a “bestower” if you will, I’ll be quickly steamrolled. But on the inside, I should be just like in the ten toward the whole world. I hold onto nothing, as it was all the Creator. That’s really how it is. But outside, I need to pretend, and behave as would be considered normal in our society. A Kabbalist can’t be identified on the outside by his behaviors.
Hi Gianni, in the work in the ten, how do I balance annulment and bestowal and Connection so it serves the purpose of the ten, ?
I have to annul myself to such an extent that I’m able to connect with them. Otherwise, if I’m still big, filled with my opinion and my importance, then I simply don’t connect with them. If I connect with them, from within that connection, I can annul myself further, where annulment comes to mean that I serve them. Because I connected with them, I feel them, their desires that are opposite to mine even, and I serve those desires, help them to be realized in fact.
Dear Gianni,
We are a ten, made up of what used to be two separate tens that recently merged into one. Do you have any practical advice on what we can do to come to real unity and integrate into each other seamlessly? What should each of us do individually and what should we do together as a ten?
Thank you ❤️
Dear Gianni, thanks for the answer on annulment ( Here is a follow up question (I put it in the wrong thread, sorry, so here it is again): Your answer was bringing me a bit closer… yet I feel it’s still confusing so I hope it’s ok if I add another bit to this question: It seems like outwardly annulment can easily be done in the ten… „let the friends choose first, let the friends decide, I follow the group, let them speak , not me“… and I feel this could be annulment , but it could also be laziness or withdrawl … it could even be refusing to serve the friends, because maybe they would need my help or input. Or maybe they would wish to bestow on me, and by not showing myself, I am not allowing them to do that. So… what should lead my actions? How do I truly annul and not withdraw myself? How do I do these actions for my friends, and not for myself? What needs to be my intention in any of these actions, so it can be truly beneficial for my friends?
Thank you:)
There is always a negative side, a way that the ego knows how to steal your advancement. Annulment is always against my Will to Receive. It’s very active and non-relaxing. The fetus has great work to be annulled all the time and not be aborted. Sometimes it could be to follow others in how they connect, sometimes I need to push them so they’ll connect. Neither is a state of rest. If I’m nullifying my Will to Receive, I always feel it in disagreement with the act.
Dear Gianni, thanks for the answer. It’s bringing me a bit closer… yet I feel it’s still confusing so I hope it’s ok if I add another bit to this question: It seems like outwardly annulment can easily be done in the ten… „let the friends choose first, let the friends decide, I follow the group, let them speak , not me“… and I feel this could be annulment , but it could also be laziness or withdrawl … it could even be refusing to serve the friends, because maybe they would need my help or input. Or maybe they would wish to bestow on me, and by not showing myself, I am not allowing them to do that. So… what should lead my actions? How do I truly annul and not withdraw myself? How do I do these actions for my friends, and not for myself? What needs to be my intention in any of these actions, so it can be truly beneficial for my friends?
Thank you:)
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