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- March 1, 2025 at 2:29 am EST #427398
Magsy KapoorParticipantHi, Gianni
Why does the calculation of the Rosh of the partzufim of AK always seem to be wrong? It seems like the Rosh calculates how much it can clothe and accept, the Malchut Misdaveget goes to work, making a Zivug and emanating a whole Guf to accept it and then the Malchut of the Guf is like “Nah, that’s too much”. Why can’t the Rosh calculate exactly how much?
Thank you 🤗
- March 1, 2025 at 12:49 pm EST #427432
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorIn the Rosh, they calculate the max bestowal possible, and receive accordingly. It’s not that it’s a mistake, but the Light inside the Guf carries with it the attitude of the Creator to this reception, that while you calculated max bestowal and have bestowed, still the Light wishes to bestow more. Essentially, the situation illuminates the imperfection of the action taken by the Partzuf, though they aimed to bestow and bestowed. It’s imperfect because, nevertheless, there’s a smorgasbord of delights prepared, and we need to deny the offer. Say I come to visit you and Sagar, you prepare for me an amazing meal, and I take just a piece of bread from it. And I show ebullient gratitude and rave about the bread. So, let’s say we’re simpatico as far as the bread goes, but over everything else you prepared, there’s a lack of equivalence of form. So, this leads to further Partzufim, to attempt to give back to the Creator (by receiving) all that He has prepared. Limitations upon what’s possible are discovered because the truth is that the Creation is unsuitable to receive in order to bestow, in all its parts, until some more processes will unfold. But, since the law of spirituality is maximum bestowal that you can, with all your powers, now and not later, in Adam Kadmon they’ve done what they could, with correct calculations.
- March 1, 2025 at 3:42 pm EST #427436
Magsy KapoorParticipantThank you, Gianni, this really helped. Also, you’re always welcome to test that example out in practice :>
- March 1, 2025 at 10:31 pm EST #427453
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorThank you, one day I hope.
- February 27, 2025 at 3:54 pm EST #427269
VerenaParticipantHi Gianni, there is another question adding to this… if we see people suffer, people that are close to us,… even if we really manage to keep in our hearts that the creator is „the good, that does good“… it
s unlikely that we wont be affected by this. How may we justify the feelings that come along with this-like grief, anger, sadness, or even feeling abandoned by the creator or feeling, much as we try, we can in this moment not justify him anymore. All these feelings or states, are most likely not something we decide on. They jsut come upon us. Therefore I wonder, how we can relate to them, because I dońt feel that , in addition to all the pain, feeling guilty of not having enough faith is in any way leading out of the darkness that surrounds us then. Then, HOW can we get out of the darkness in such states?- February 27, 2025 at 5:06 pm EST #427275
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorIn this state, that state, another state, we need to connect to the ten. If we really do it, we see that that was the correction. Each time, connection is the answer. The scrutiny of why to do it, how to do it, is how we sort our states, and turn them into spiritual advancement. Everything can be solved from the higher degree, and nothing from within the degree we’re on.
- February 27, 2025 at 11:48 pm EST #427300
VerenaParticipantThanks so much, it is helpful. Now, and this is not theoretical, because I have been there- what if there is no ten, no ressources, and maybe not even understanding of Kabbalah? I understand, the creator is with us, all the time. But both that darkness and , once you have had the chance to learn, the „fear of loosing faith“ (i.e., if I understood correctly the „fear of God“) feel so opposite to faith above reason. So what would be left then, when fear or pain cut down any possible faith? Can a prayer still work then? When you dońt believe in it, but maybe want to?
- February 28, 2025 at 11:21 am EST #427327
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorNo, we can and should pray from every state. Why else were we given any state? Only to have to pray. The Creator doesn’t need all the states where we’re in control. The good state is when we need Him. I should walk around as a prayer machine.
- February 27, 2025 at 3:21 pm EST #427267
VerenaParticipantHi Gianni, if we think about „loss“ or „having to let go“ in corporeal life, it naturally evokes feelings of grief, sadness, anger. In a way I understood itś all just transitions… „changes in form“ or „changing the clothes“, and when it come to life cahnges it´ś all managed from above for us to learn. Now, . how can we learn to accept those changes, or losses, and grow with them rather than getting stuck? I understand, we have to accept „everything comes from above“, but I equally see how difficult it can be, how in these situations we may get stuck in the darkness, so I am wondering how to grow with challenges on this.
- February 27, 2025 at 4:53 pm EST #427273
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorWe have to connect to our ten, and in them, the Creator: None Else Besides Him, Who fills all of reality, and only does good.
- February 26, 2025 at 8:40 pm EST #427202
BradParticipantDear Gianni, What does “you shall not add or take away from the Torah mean”?
- February 26, 2025 at 9:33 pm EST #427203
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorYou need to do what is prescribed and not anything additional, as if to improve upon it.
- February 22, 2025 at 5:53 pm EST #426865
VerenaParticipantThank you Gianni for getting back to me. That was already really very helpful.
I went through your answer several times, and changed this text accordingly, because as I re-read, I felt most of my insecurities answered and that incredible sadness of maybe just not being right in Kabbalah kind of started to subside.
Still, what remains is this insecurity… if we all have the same inner work to do, still I understand we have to unite, to connect. In the mirror congress I felt that growing unity in the meńs group and the womeńs group and that complementation between both of the course of time. But how can I unite, if I am lacking the qualities that everyone else in my group has? If I cannot just „be“ with them. If I feel not like them. I mean, I really tried. But what made me so incredibly sad, was, to think, that with all my incapacities, I might hinder the others from progressing. That I might just distract or confuse them. How can I take responsibility to really be there for the others? How can I make sure not to be in the way of unity? And when do I simply have to step back?
- February 22, 2025 at 11:26 pm EST #426872
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorIt can’t be that someone who comes with a desire for the goal, hinders the friends’ advancement. It’s right that when I truly try to connect and to the extent of those efforts, especially if I try to with intention, I see that I fail, and I’m worse than others, and that it’s the Creator who has to be the glue. It is what’s missing rather than their being something wrong with you yourself. The connection is all that’s broken.
- February 23, 2025 at 3:08 am EST #426880
VerenaParticipantGianni,you helped me so much with your answers. Now, just this last question, because I really hope I can work it out from there: This feeling of connection, and love, and unity that was so tangible in this gathering… is this the creator glueing us together, filling the gaps between us? Is this how he reveals between us? And in such a gathering, can I turn to him, asking to just help me give to the friends whatever I can in this moment, and leave the rest to him (and the friends)?
- February 24, 2025 at 10:46 am EST #426998
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorYes, at our level of connection, that’s the way the Creator is felt. You can turn to Him and ask for anything that is close to bestowal.
- February 24, 2025 at 12:54 pm EST #427006
VerenaParticipantThank you, it’s so amazing , after the congress it all felt so heavy, but now it turns to the opposite… thanks so much for the clarification , it so hrlped, and I just want to let you know this REALLY changed something ❤️🔥❤️ I think I really learned a lot from this ☺️🥰
- February 23, 2025 at 2:18 am EST #426878
VerenaParticipantThank you so much. I think I understand it now.❤️ 🔥❤️
- February 22, 2025 at 10:36 am EST #426847
VerenaParticipantDear Gianni, I don’t know if this question fits here, but I really, really feel I need to know… so maybe you can help along. I was at the Holland mirror congress and it was an amazing experience. I learned a lot these days, and to be in this place, made this really a practical wisdom. Apart from all study and learning , it was about building and passing on that energy of love and connection. And that was really, really tangible and such a gift. However, I felt how important it is that the male and female energy complement each other. And in this, I felt like a mismatched prototype. Like DNA and energy don’t match. DNA female, energy male. How can I work in a place that asks female energy, flowing like Bina, beautiful, soft , gentle… when I am opposite to this? You know, I really tried to stay focused on it, pass the energy on, mingle with the others. But it was exhausting. I felt like a stranger, attaining a world that is not for him, because it is designed the opposite way. Now, I feel the importance in this process, that the energies have to complement each other. And I don’t want to harm or lower that through being a mismatch. And as the creator is nature‘s law, and not a manager with a checklist… maybe I am not needed in this place. Maybe I should not be here, being so opposite to what I should be. Plus , corporeal life asks the opposite. I have to be strong, lead on, make decisions all the time, whether I want to or not. This contrast is kind of shaking me through like a milkshake. I want to serve the creator, do what I can. But… can it be that I am just wrong here?
- February 22, 2025 at 3:19 pm EST #426858
Gianni – KabU InstructorModeratorHey Verena,
I’m so glad you’re got to experience a convention. Thank you for your efforts.
But no it’s not that way. Male, female…from the teacher I can say confidently that you’re the same in terms of the inner work. Of course your work is at least as different as mine is to any other of the men friends. No one is alike because each is so unique. You can’t even say “so” unique but it is sui generis. Each friend irreplaceable, special, invaluable.
Please ask if you have more questions.
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