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I’m looking forward to sharing this information with my husband. I think he will be one board to create a shared space. I can see clearly that he and I both have inherited some egoistic resentment patterns from our families. I know how much we both want to have a loving, secure, and growing relationship
My wife views Kabbalah as a hobby, she does not understand to me its like “needing” the creator. I cant change her mind, so I simply have tot accept this is my life. She honors the fact that I am Jewish because she understands the freedom to peruse a religion. But she does not see past that because she saw a video that Kabbalah is not a religion. So she has now defined it as a “hobby”, I have tried sharing it with her, but she is not interested as of now. So I have to accept that I am being selfish in this and I have to wait on the creator to either pull her to this path, or I simply have to accept that she is not to walk this path with me.
Hi Richard,
Perhaps if you share these new goals for a loving, connected relationship with your partner, she will see how much there is to gain from Kabbalah, and how it can truly make life better.
I don’t know many women who don’t want their partners to make efforts to love them better!
These principles are universal, and all of Kabbalah is just about learning how to love. I’m sure that if more people could see that, they would openly embrace it.Goodluck!
Tal
i am in the same situation with my husband. the topic of spirituality actually irritates him. i definitely understand what you’re going through and i know how hard it is…there are alot of others in the same situation. it’s sometime hard to know how to navigate the situation but my husband is at least supportive of my desire for spirituality, but still sees the path itself as a hobby, and when he is not calling it a hobby he is switching it up on me and calling it a religion, he hates religion…there are points where he gets angry at me for my studies, the money i spend on it, the time i spend on it, my changing and growing perception of reality, etc…the struggle is real but i trust we aren’t given anything we cannot bare. keep on keepin on! much love man.
It is always easier to observe one’s own behaviour, when the emotions envolved are not that strong.
The more I feel for somebody, the stronger I react and the heavier it is, to overcome the differences.
Yes. On the coporeal level, this is just our nervous system that “hijacks” us. When we are triggered, our brain is flooded with chemicals, and we do/say things we don’t really mean to. This is something we can treat through self-soothing, taking an agreed-upon time out etc.
On a spiritual level, we get shown our own nature, and we need help from Creator, from our friends to rise above it. Every time we experience a failure at overcoming the ego, we have a greater motivation to ask for help. It’s like breaking our way out of Egypt, in the story of the Exodus – it’s a process and we have to keep working at it together- creating the strong enough desire to leave the ego, so we can be free once and for all! In the end, it works! So don’t lose hope, keep working on the connection and we will get there together 🙂
TalSomething similar happens to me, and the I feels justified so much.
And I find myself, whenever there is conflict, constantly fighting within myself. I rise above, see it for what it is
and from there no feelings are felt, there is only compassion and understanding.Then, I come back down, pulled by the justifications of the I; they make sense and are compelling, oh so strong.
I want to not feel so strongly; I want to always stay above; I want to operate eternally from above.
Why is it ephemeral to do so? is it?
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