Share something from the lesson that you found insightful, or share your impressions from the exercise.

[Tal Mandelbaum]

Share something from the lesson that you found insightful, or share your impressions from the exercise.

[Pradeep]

I have always blamed others instead of reflecting and correcting my negative patterns. It is easy to find reasons of why you behave a certain way instead of taking the effort to go through the pain and correcting the behavior.

[Mel Farrell]

Judgement of others prevents me from loving

[Stephanie]

The lesson has made me reflect on my own ways of pushing someone away causing detachment. Anxious attachment causes me to feel intense fear which may result in poor behaviours like shutting down, trying to punish the partner, becoming overly clingy, reassurance seeking

[shaymaa bakr]

i have judgment and detach myself

[Ben]

It made a lot of sense to me.

[Jo]

When my siblings and I were young our mother used to say”you ought to be ashamed of yourself!” Each of us had a maladaptive response to that. For me that shame led to a pattern of not wanting to expose what I perceived as my flaws/deficiencies to my partner, so in a very real sense it resulted in a certain amount of detachment so as to protect myself from that shame.
I really appreciated the part of the lesson about how we can develop more compassion for ourselves when we see our attitudinal and behavioral patterns as natural tendencies rather than judging them harshly; and that sharing these tender, fearful, embarrassing parts of ourselves with our partners give us genuine opportunities to connect and grow with each other, releasing us from internal pressure of hiding our what we view as our flaws.

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