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I’ve noticed that sometimes my ego gets in the way in my relationship. When I feel criticized or misunderstood, I tend to get defensive instead of just saying how I feel. I also catch myself wanting to be right all the time, even when it’s not helpful. It’s like I’m more focused on winning the argument than actually solving the problem together.
Looking back, I think some of this comes from how I grew up. In my family, there was a lot of judgment and not much space to talk about feelings. So now, I sometimes criticize or shut down emotionally when things get hard. I also have a habit of pulling away when I feel overwhelmed, which makes it harder to stay connected.
I’m trying to look at these patterns with kindness. They’re not bad—they’re just old habits I picked up to protect myself. But I don’t need them as much anymore. I want to learn how to be more open, more patient, and more present with my partner.
One thing from the lesson that really stuck with me is the idea that these traits aren’t something to be ashamed of. Everyone has them. What matters is noticing them and choosing to grow. That gives me hope.
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