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I talk with my wife about everything I learn in Kabbalah. I even explain the drawings i make of understanding the tree of life. I take extensive notes and every Shabbat we go over what I learned the day before. Shes not on board but she accepts that it is important to me. Shes not taken any of this wrong and she agrees that our life resembles a lot of what Kabbalah says, but she is not Jewish or “new age spiritual”. We dont fight, its just not something we do. And if we have a disagreement we realize that this is just a projection from the “Freudian” psychology. We always remember the kids are watching, and we make sure to keep it healthy. We understood long ago there is no “self’ in love. We live this and thats why we have been together for over 10 years.
I have a good life with my wife. We work hard, we raise good kids, and she even allows me to push Shabbat on the entire family even though shes not Jewish. She knows how important this is for me.  And She has things that I support that I am not involved but I accept and support her as well.  We make time every day after work to spend at least an hour and sometimes cooking meals together for the children we talk about our work day. We feel our kids need to see this so they can see what a Healthy relationship looks like. I dont need my partner to change at all, and she accepted me how I am a long time ago. We made this our understanding prior to marrying one another and that is why our marriage works. It may even be why im drawn to the wisdom of Kabbalah, alot of it is just as familiar as my marriage at home, concerning how relationships should be even with just friends.
I have a very deep connection with my wife, I am not faking smiles, we have a very healthy relationship I dont understand this exercise. Because literally Kabbalah teaches me that she is my soulmate I treat her like I want to be treated. I dont do anything for myself I always make sure shes the one who is satisfied, and luckily shes actually acting the same way even though shes not studying Kabbalah. I dont have to fake smile, I have always thought Elohim was in us all to a degree and her spirituality is similar. I accept her as she is because people dont change, this was one of my requirements prior to marrying her, we are who we are. Neither of us are narcissistic, the only difference we have is in Kabbalah. She considers this a hobby and I consider this the only important part of my spirituality. But because when I first started she saw that it was not actually a “religion” shes labeled it as nothing but a hobby and only supports me so far into financial decisions concerning it. Such as how often we will spend money on books for the classes. But she takes care of me and I take care of her, and there is no real issues between us.
My wife views Kabbalah as a hobby, she does not understand to me its like “needing” the creator. I cant change her mind, so I simply have tot accept this is my life. She honors the fact that I am Jewish because she understands the freedom to peruse a religion. But she does not see past that because she saw a video that Kabbalah is not a religion. So she has now defined it as a “hobby”, I have tried sharing it with her, but she is not interested as of now. So I have to accept that I am being selfish in this and I have to wait on the creator to either pull her to this path, or I simply have to accept that she is not to walk this path with me.
Love in general between people has broken down over time. I feel that we learned love from torah or some type of religion that came out of what torah was. This was a concept foreign to most.  But because we only have the will to receive, mankind in general is pushing that procreation is a threat to survival. Different lifestyles are promoting not even having children anymore. or expecting someone else to have that child for them.  Love is just not part of the narcissisms we see in this world anymore. I personally feel we have to get back to understanding key concepts about being human, that we are a whole not just a piece of that whole like we perceive, and it is only through torah and mitzvot (the ones referred to by bal’al Sulam), that we can overcome this type of mentality.
Love in general between people has broken down over time. I feel that we learned love from torah or some type of religion that came out of what torah was. This was a concept foreign to most.  But because we only have the will to recieve, mankind in general is pushing that procreation is a threat to survival. Different lifestyles are promoting not even having children anymore. or expecting someone else to have that child for them.  Love is just not part of the narcissisms we see in this world anymore. I personally feel we have to get back to understanding key concepts about being human, that we are a whole not just a piece of that whole like we perceive, and it is only through torah and mitzvot (the ones referred to by bal’al Sulam), that we can overcome this type of mentality.
