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[Gil]

Ask, connect, inspire.

[Kimadigital7]

When the friends gather together, with one heart and each thinking on achieving bestowal,… Should I love them and see and feel only that desire in them, that aspiration towards the Creator? And why must we not forget that each of us are thinking and desiring the same think? What does that give or add to us?

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

The friend is actually his aspiration toward the goal. That’s the friend that I want to connect with – with which I can reach the goal.

[Clara]

Hello Gianni,

if “what is mine is mine and what is yours is yours” is sodomy, what is “what is mine is mine and what is yours is mine”?

Thank you.

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

Sodom is already a serious degree compared to our world where everyone wants theirs and then to milk everyone else for the max possible. That’s called “what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is mine.”

[Brad]

Since Yom Kippur is approaching, I have something on my mind, we have learned that in Kabbalah, restricting yourself of Material things, food, etc. fasting, will not do anything for you spiritually, all you need is desire, And I agree, (at least speaking from an individual perspective). But I read in a blog article from Rav Laitman Called  “the detriments and benefits of fasting” Where he says that fasting is not an individual effort, but a “group” effort, only then it is elevated. Do any groups/TEN’s  fast? Or am i misunderstanding?

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

In Israel where this is the nation’s custom, we fast. There’s something to it, but it’s not a must for those who live outside Israel.

[Zorica Kostadinovska]

Hi Gianni,

I would really appreciate your advise on a repeating situation (2 YGs). What to do when there is an abusive friend who always demands something and imagines that they are the biggest bestower and, the rest are leeches that suck their energy for selfish reasons and uses every situation, every interaction to provoke, to dominate, to scold? We are tiptoing at every meeting, at every interaction. We tried everything: covering with love, praying, asking for change, and guidance, but nothing seemed to work. We asked for help, but that also didn’t change things. This time I tried to stay away from the bully and didn’t engage much (first YG I tried to reason with them, but to no avail), but after more than few weeks of this behavior, I don’t really want to go to meetings anymore, or engage in the chat, or anything really. I no longer know what to do or how to relate to this. I don’t have a feeling that I am in Kabbalistic group anymore, but rather a psychiatric session. Can you please advise? Thank you a million in advance!

 

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

If it’s like you’re saying and all the ten feels that way, then there’s a misconception about what the ten is for and we need to look into it.

[Zorica Kostadinovska]

Thank you Gianni, but can you please advise who is “we” that need to look into it and what does looking into it mean exactly?

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

The team will address it. Thanks for bringing it up.

[Magsy Kapoor]

Hi, Gianni,

Related to Maria’s question and to something we learned in the YG (“Mighty Rock of my Salvaton”, where it talks about the force we should not receive fuel from): When I am trying to connect to my friends and bestow, should I be worried that they might receive whatever I want to give in Klipot? Should I try to protect them from that by refraining from bestowing something that I think they may receive in their egoistic vessels? Or should that not be my concern, as it doesn’t seem to be a concern to the Creator. Should I try to bestow like the Creator, without care where it goes, trusting that the system itself will not allow the vessels of reception to receive any light that is not meant for them? Or should I try to make the calculation when, what and to whom to bestow?  Thank you!

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

There’s something to all that, but generally all I can bestow is the importance of the goal, my example; and with this there is no room to harm them.

[Magsy Kapoor]

Thank you, Gianni! One more related question has come up. Do we attain the work in bestowal individually or is it something that appears simultaneously to all of us in the ten like this team-building game where the people in a circle all lean back into each other’s lap at the same time?

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

No, each according to their efforts, the root of the soul…

[maria santos]

In our tens, what are we actually supposed to be bestowing to our friends (besides love)? Is it bestowal if a friend doesn’t want or ask for something so they have no clue that another friend is bestowing but the bestower insists that they accept it? If someone bestows something we do not desire, but we accept it does that make it that the person receiving is actually bestowing? I have read we should taken on the desires of our friends, but what desires are acceptable? I would think it means spiritual desires, but I’m not sure if that is true.

[Gianni – KabU Instructor]

You mainly bestow to the others your good attitude. This is the hardest thing because I can give an object to one that I hate, but changing my heart is something else.

Is it bestowal if a friend doesn’t want or ask for something so they have no clue that another friend is bestowing but the bestower insists that they accept it? It’s possible to bestow without the other knowing it. For example, my small child doesn’t have to know how I relate to him with great love. But it can’t be bestowal if it is rejected because then it’s not according to the friend’s desire but according to my desire. 

If someone bestows something we do not desire, but we accept it does that make it that the person receiving is actually bestowing? Yes.

I have read we should taken on the desires of our friends, but what desires are acceptable? I help them realize their spiritual desire.

 

[maria santos]

Thank you so much!

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