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I don’t mind answering many times because it takes time to internalize. It’s like a piece of furniture in the house which I no longer notice: it’s truly like it’s not there. This way, I have very large things in me I don’t even know are there but when I get to know them, I’ll see that they were always there. Or a dark room in which I only see the furniture when a candle is lit. Or I start seeing the furniture but only with a stronger light I see the dirt on it.
So, the desire to receive, we already have. It gets revealed a bit at a time. The spiritual desire is outside me, in the friends. To the extent that I can grow it, in the spiritual group, the desire to receive in me can be revealed and corrected – revealed to the extent that I can correct it, so that it won’t be like placing an obstacle in front of a blind person.
So it’s a matter of perception, whether we say the desire to receive in me has actually grown – because I used to think I was clean and a mirror is held up which shows me otherwise and although I now see that I was always so, nevertheless I now feel dirty and not clean. Or like the emperor who is the only one who doesn’t know he has no clothes, but it’s not the same knowing I’m naked vs. not knowing. So it’s all depends if a person prefers to live a lie – which is better if I don’t want to correct myself – or reveal the truth and correct myself. It will all be corrected when one can’t tolerate lies anymore, and that day will come – but some prefer to wait another day, another lifetime.
We always have deficiencies. But what do I do with them? Naturally, I try to fill each one. Is that what I was supposed to do? A shower of deficiencies are bestowed upon me by the Creator so that they can be turned into a deficiency for bestowal to the Creator. So it’s either I fill up the deficiency or I turn to the Creator with this empty vessel and He needs to fill it with the quality of bestowal. This all has to tie to my work in the ten of course.
Toward them, I want to seemingly replace the backside of the Creator. So instead of the regular deficiency that the Creator will send, that needs to be turned into a spiritual deficiency, I want to already instill in them a spiritual deficiency. Say, by showing them I’m investing extra, beyond “what I can do,” in the love of friends. This example creates a gap between the existing and the desirable. It’s very good to give each other such “problems”.
It’s possible. Generally I know I need to raise the importance of the goal for the friend, to such an extent that it changes their reality. How to do this though? As Rabash says, to a friend who likes sweets and not pickles, I can’t bestow pickles (though that might have been what I’d have liked to “bestow”). So I need to learn what to each friend can be called love of friends.
Hi Helen,
Sorry, I just missed your question.
No, your desire to receive is only revealed. A regular person has an ego that is not revealed so it’s like cancer that hasn’t been diagnosed. It’s causing you harm big-time, but for now you think everything’s great.
This is called “revelation of evil,” meaning the revelation of all that is in me, and is actually destroying all the good in the world. It happens in a way that a person realizes that it was always there but I was unaware of it, like one who has never looked in a mirror suddenly sees their face is dirty.
You’re right in everything. However, according to spirituality, while the friends are with us, they are all equal, because the Creator brings them here right now, and they are irreplaceably special, anc you’re privileged to be in their company, no matter their level of whatever looks to you like their dedication. They are previous. And if they make their free choice to leave, then they go back to beastly life, their Point in the Heart is buried, and they’re suddenly like anyone else.
But while they’re awakened, with us, overcoming their Will to Receive, you have to love their holy spark, respect each one as equal, and do all you can to help them make their free choice right free choice each time.
We still wait for them to be awakened and welcome them back. In the meantime, we continue the work.
If a friend leaves, it’s natural that they would leave behind some accusations. Otherwise why leave? Every friend who does spiritual work has accusations against their friends. It’s not that these accusations have a shred of validity. I always need to judge myself, and never the friends; lower myself and raise the friends above me; give love of friends to the ten, and not wait for love to be shown to me, such that friends will behave in manners that suit my opinion of what love of friends looks like. In short, there’s no room for me to allow the image of the shattered reality to speak within me – let alone for it to escape past my lips and echo within the ten!
If there’s a specific problem that we think falls outside the boundaries of the regular tricks that each one’s ego plays to give us something to overcome, you can reach out to the Arvut Team. But we have to accept that, as in a body where cells are born and die all the time, there can be friends that come and go on the periphery of the ten. Our role is to love them and support them while they are with us, and the rest is up to the Creator.
