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Hi Mary,
There’s no such thing as suppressing my desires, and you’re correct that it won’t work anyway. A desire is a desire – it can’t be destroyed. Other desires can be made more important such that they diminish the importance of another desire. So, it remains as it is but I have atop it some other, more exalted desire. I need to try to make my spiritual desire more important than all physical desires, and then I will see that this is the key to the intention that I would be able to add to all my desires. This is way more serious and dedicated a study than it might sound at first, as this is the entire wisdom of Kabbalah and all that we’re here in this world to do.
About your specific corporeal state, there’s nothing to say because corporeality at that level has its own laws, only some are wilier than others. For example, do I need to change my behaviors to suit what I perceive to be their ill-at-ease with my modes of interaction? I don’t have to bend to their will. BUT – if I’m in the workplace, I’d be well-advised to consider doing so nevertheless. If I’m with my family, I’m basically in my own bathwater – whatever mess I make there, I’m in that mess. Same principle to a lesser extent on my street: If I throw trash over the fence at my neighbor, they will probably do it back to me. So, this world has its own laws. Some people understand them better than others, but they are certain laws as much as the laws of atoms and anything else. Kabbalah doesn’t help in that area of what is basically just “street smarts”.
Kabbalah deals with the level of intentions where if I have correct intentions then my actions will all be correct and perceived as such by those around me. However, changing the intention is – again – the entire wisdom of Kabbalah rather than being something that I already have in my toolbox to be able to do by a superficial thought process.
For the sake of the Kli (vessel), which in its corrected form is called Shechina, in which the Creator can dwell.
The difference is that we don’t get to decide if we can receive or not without shame. Instead, the conditions under which we could receive and not feel shame have been predetermined. And we will not feel any Light in our Vessel, ever – unless we are already in equivalence of form with the Upper Light. Meaning I need to already be in an intention to bestow to Him. Otherwise, it is just guaranteed, from Above, that I can’t make any mistakes. I can make mistakes, but they won’t result in Shame. Shame is something that we do not know. It’s never been felt in our world (even though everything we do is to avoid it). It’s not “sharing”, as you say – that’s a concept formulated in a way that it is as if egoists can start bestowing right away, in their egoistic Vessels. I’d discard that idea and start over. Realistically, it’s not going to work because that isn’t the approach to the Upper World. I need to first head towards bestowal. To do that I need to learn what bestowal is and where it’s possible. Later, I’ll learn how I can use my Vessels in the direction of bestowal, while my current vessels (1) Can’t be used to bestow, and (2) are also not considered Vessles of reception and therefore I don’t need to feel bad that I am receiving in them. They are considered receiving in the sense that a cow is receiving grass and water. I am not even dealing with real pleasures yet. Because I do not know how to deal with real pleasures yet. If I do what I should do in the state that I am in, then I will be trusted with real pleasures.
To tell what state I’m in, I have to ascend a bit above this world. But Kabbalists tell us where we are – in the last degree after falling gradually to greater and greater desires to receive until the point where there’s no Screen over the desire, which means no Light, no pleasure. There’s just a bare minimum to keep us alive as no one can live without pleasure. This pleasure is so tiny that it’s not considered receiving. I can’t bestow by it. It is not the pleasure intended in the Thought of Creation, it’s just sustenance to keep us living until we will learn what the meaning of life is and the method to reach it.
Hi Paul,
How to change my relationship towards the friends in order to connect the point in the hearts?
I have to change MY relationship towards them. Their greatness exists already at a deeper frame of nature than the frame I’m currently viewing. The only question is if I can work beyond the frame I’m seeing. That will bring the frame in which they are great, closer as it activates the Upper Light.
What exactly do I anticipate from an action?
That I would like to make it an act of bestowal, with no result, except for a result that will be in the friends, for their benefit, without any feedback. The fact that were I able to do that there would be something, I don’t care about that. I’m looking for an act of pure bestowal, contentment in the friends and the Creator.
What efforts can we make in our lessons (or after it) to reveal the Upper Force?
Ask: what do I need to do inside to be the perfect example for the friends? What will connect them? We are, afterall, internally connected whether we want it or not, and every move in me affects them and visa versa.
How can we sense that we are connected in one system?
By acting like we’re in one system.
How can we, in our connection, increase the demand for correction?
Envy, lust and honor bring a person out of this world. Envy the friends, and set an example of the perfect friend on the path.
Questions, that are already answered by our experienced instructors, but the un-experienced are not that wise, so they keep on raising these questions, hoping they will reach that level also.
We don’t perceive questions as the same questions when they’re asked by a different friend. There are only so many questions that can be, but they’re new if coming from a different Kli.
