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The real reason for conflict and chaos in the world is that we all want to be the only one except we want everyone else to see that we are the only one, or rather, the only preeminent one. In addition, we also want them to participate in us being the preeminent one through acts of service and contrition. Everyone wants to be the chosen one also, except no one wants to understand the chosen one gives away everything. There is of course another problem. Others of us have chosen to not be the chosen one rather to be the one who loses and apparently that’s why they starve and die all the time according to some people but I hear even Moses didn’t get a straight answer on this one. So, parts of us want to win at other peoples expense and other parts of us would rather lose than either A. take part or B. Be apart of the system seeing no way out but the life of self denial. Then of course there’s of us the space cases, like me, most of my early life (puffs fog on the nails like it’s not a problem now) I actually had almost no value for the system (puff, puff 🙂 and it just kept falling in my lap but whatever. I think it says in Psalms will all be like dreamers when we wake up. Some of the stream from autism, others from ADHD, others have Hypnagogia, some use substances. Maybe it’s the collective Messiah of Joseph. Except maybe we were thrown into a dream state by trauma. Oh, that fits too 🙂 Maybe the part of us that was good was more traumatized by seeing how the world behaved because it was how we were treating ourselves. Heck, when I see a hot lady driving on the road in a sports car I say, “don’t I look good in that sports car?” because it’s us even if not me at the time. Some of us were born with a hole in her head.
- <li style=”text-align: left;”>This lesson reminds me of a story told to me many years ago by a woman who went by the name of Dottie. She explained that back in the 1950s when she and her husband were still newly married they had suffered a long period of physical separation after the initial marriage due to his service in the military. Later, when he came home from the military he developed a drinking problem and eventually became physically abusive. She used to pray every day and beg the creator to change her husband. One day she was praying and a thought occurred to her which was to begin to pray to ask God to change her. She said that later that night he didn’t beat her and within a few days he actually stopped drinking. This is a true story I will point out at this point. They went on to be married until he passed away in 2011 and she passed away little over 100 years old just a couple years ago. I still think it’s a great lesson. However, like all great advice it must be looked at from all sides. This is what I think is the meaning of “a multitude of counselors” in Proverbs. What I mean by that is; where could this advice go wrong? Some may find this to be a flaw in thinking, or a fly in the ointment 🙂 but I find deductive reasoning to be the type used in common math and to have practical intellectual applications as well. Sort of like we all know that being kind is good but some people like actually turn kindness into an idol of sorts. That’s because you can be so dang kind that in the end you’re unkind. The core meaning behind the word good (Tav)in Hebrew is more like balanced/works and the core meaning behind the word evil (ra)is more like imbalanced/destructive/doesn’t work. So you could be so kind that you’re imbalanced or don’t function in your framework. Which means that your kindness is evil If it’s not something that doesn’t produce positive physical results. Let me explain why I am even going here. There is a common disease to humanity call codependency which is commonly mistaken for interdependency. In a true codependent there is a lacking sense of self, Caused by lack of healthy mirroring in early childhood which is how we develop the connections to our frontal lobe. This early childhood neglect can also be brought on by diseases and illnesses which require to cure that a small child be put in a situation where they couldn’t be held or cuddled for a long period of time. Just to clarify it’s not always parental neglect, it could be quite the opposite.That being said, A high degree of childhood adversity causes codependency of which a small number of them become narcissistic pathologically. Narcissistic pathologically means under an MRI your brain shows that you only receive receive pleasurable chemicals when you hurt someone else or lie to them or do some other similar predatory behavior, this is different from the typical brain. When you look at a codependent relationship you can determine who the narcissist is and who the codependent is by the balance of powers in the relationship. The person who gets an inordinate amount (imbalanced) of respect, love and care is the narcissist. It’s math. In the case of an infant this attitude is wholly healthy. It’s situationally appropriate for a child or a small baby to get an in ordinate amount of love and care. When this goes on with an adult unchecked it is toxic. In a relationship like this both people are codependent, however, codependency can be treated relatively successfully whereas studies have shown us the treatments for narcissism are far less successful to the point of being dismal. That being said there is a portion of humanity who having never had healthy playtime and cuddling mirrored in early childhood by people who were relatively reliable tend to blame themselves for everything. To the point where those around take advantage of and exploit them. Take the statistic for instance that only one and 200 people have true narcissism. Sounds super rare doesn’t it? Consider again that 20% Of military meet the qualifications for narcissistic personality disorder. One day, based on the statistics that people in churches are statistically more likely to commit predatory crimes than the. general population, similarly to military men, I suspect we will find that church people deal with a similar rate, at least of 20%, like the military. Which I suspect many of us started off in a church of some sort and maybe tried to save everyone and had a bad experience 🙂 To break it down people who are traumatized in childhood are often codependent the various degrees, however, the tiny percentage of them become narcissists or victimizers. I bring it up because the codependent and the narcissist both have a problem with a lack of sense of self. Take the old did the tree fall in the woods adage. If the tree fell in the woods and the narcissist was the only person there they would say that no tree fell because no one actually saw them leave the ax to the tree therefore it never happened. The codependent would be a chance blame themselves for the tree falling even if someone else clearly laid an axe to it plus a sharp wind came or alternately If it just fill the codependent wouldn’t consider their own years to be sufficient as counting for a person having heard it. In either case how can you ask for help changing on the inside if you have no clearly defined sense of self. Now, here is another true story. Except this one is mine. Hi spent many years married in a very religious environment and every day prayed the Lord to change me and always asked myself what I was doing wrong. The people around me became more and more ill behaved in abusive until I realized that my kindness was evil.
If we have no intention specified by us then the intentions that we already have built into us will be carried out. This means the intentions of all those people around us when we were little will be our intention. In other words will be a paper cut out.
We can be satisfied even though the pleasure neutralizes the desire if we give in a away that simulates a cup that is chronically overflowing via receiving pleasure through giving.
The correct way to give to others is as though the greatest privilege ever has been bestowed upon you. How often in the entire universe do we get to give to the creator itself? The correct way is to get high off of giving. Literally, in the flesh.
The idea that we have unlimited free will is in fact an illusion. IMO. As evidenced in a multitude sources including stories in the Bible were even the devil has to get permission to mess with someone like Job or as evidenced in mythology the vampire of lore requires permission to enter the home. This type of free will reminds me much of the type of free will I would give to my children when they were small. Which was summed up in my famous slogan, “You can have anything you want..up to a limit.” This was put to use quite frequently, for instance, in the grocery store where I might give them their freedom of any ice cream flavor but within a certain price range. Similarly, we also are given freedom within the range we are allowed. As defined by factors including to which degree our autonomic nervous system is online (Gabor Mate: When The Body Says No), we are present in mind (Retaining reflective thought) and willing to be rejected by our peer group in order to adhere to a higher code than that which is reflected in the ever shifting sands of the mob mentality.
In addition, scientifically speaking approximately 39% of the population is capable of reflective thought at any given time, however, only 10% of the population actualizes the reflective thought process when confronted with peer pressure (The ultimate marshmallow in the ultimate marshmallow test). Reflective thought being the earmark of free will. Because reflective thought alone allows us to step above our animalistic desires to fit in at any expense, which desire physiologically is at the root of phenomenon like mass genocide. This is evidenced in the Milgram study which has been re-produced in culture after culture, presently on this earth, and produce the same results regardless of religion. Namely that upwards of 61% of all people will torture another person to death if an authority figure prompts him to do so. That number jumps to 90% when peer pressure is added to the mix. Leaving only 10% of people who retain the ability to think reflectively under the spell of peer pressure and approval.
It’s an irony that 10% of the population statistically is given disproportionate amount of abuse in childhood. Studies have also found that the child who is scapegoated is often a child who does not go with the flow of the family, who usually is engaged in some sort of ill conceived practices. This literally means that society is scapegoating the 10% who are capable of reflective thought under all circumstances possibly from birth. The Creators tithe of humanity if you will. This abuse when inflicted in a certain timeframe of youth causes the connections to the frontal lobe that form by play, i.e. mirroring creating neural pathways in the mind that allow us to reach our frontal lobe for the purpose of reflective thought to suffer, in addition, the nervous system which gives us our ability to function within our body and within reality and forms our perceptions of reality is put off line or in disconnect- these things are caused by others in these early formative years as a function of society. Which opposes nature IMO. So, these things can be fractured by circumstance when a child is still in a hypnotic brain state in their formative years. I personally believe this belief that the body, “is so insignificant that it can’t be compared to the soul, that it can exchange organs with other species and continue to live even without its body parts.. that it exist for the sake of the soul alone” is a partial truth much like the partial truth presented post Babylon. What I mean by that is it product of dualistic thinking. The body and the soul are meant to be married. Whatever our perceptions of reality are, it is proven by science that our body does in fact tell the tale and hold the memory (re: Gabor Mate: When the body says No.” Much like my fingers remember how to play piano. Muscle memory. Our body was made from the substance of the earth, our soul is not disconnected from this.
