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It again depends on if we’re talking about some beginner mistakes or something else. Are we talking about forcing some poor mother to turn on her camera while she’s nursing or something? We can’t obligate a woman to anything time-dependent because the world demands twice of her what it demands of a man – and besides, there is such a spiritual law. She can connect when and how she can, and the Creator judges her against her – meaning she herself is the metric ruler. Against her prior state, she is judged if she advanced another millimeter toward the connection. We can’t tell on the outside. Only to the extent she said, “If I’m not present Monday through Friday, call me, knock on my door, help me to not lose sight of the goal,” we can serve her desire. We can ask such things of the friends, about ourselves; but we can’t do the converse and tell a friend, “You should be here Monday through Friday, have your camera on” and so on. We can agree generally and raise the importance of the fact that having our cameras on is an expression of our desire to connect, with all the means that we have – since, after all, would you choose a zoom, let alone a zoom without your camera on, if given the chance to speak with your cute darling beloved small child? So, if we aspire to be like organs in one body – that’s even greater love than any love we can imagine. So, of course I’d turn on my camera; of course I’d speak in the workshop like I’d speak, even at 2 in the morning if woken up by my darling child who knows no better than to wake me. We’re aspiring for love. Real love. And here, that will mean reaching love of the Creator at the same time. Having said that, we also need to understand that we don’t understand the situation of the other women. And, even what I’ve said above, we have to be sure we didn’t say it to target someone and teach them to stop neglecting the ten, slacking, and so on – since then, that intention will be all that is heard. Imagine each of them as your beloved daughter that is tentatively flirting with the path of Kabbalah and has a chance to now correct her soul during this lifetime, how gentle, careful, and thoughtful you’d be to push to hard, so as not to turn her off and return her to the darkness of corporeal listlessness for another lifetime. So, I should pressure myself, and only give the friends the pressure they ask for. I already pressure them greatly by showing a great example in every moment, as this sets a high bar, and we’re built to want to reach a bar another sets.
One can only use this on himself, to excuse the friends in his eyes, since they are a reflection of his qualities. If we think about it, we’ll see how we can’t tell anyone else to obey the commandment underlying this: they are all my qualities, my approach. So, there’s nothing to tell anyone ever. I should tell only myself. Otherwise, I’m just falling off a cliff at a deeper level of the principle.
I’d say that our work is to rise above all the degrees of egoism. Only much later, we open up that box and take it out bit by bit, to the extent we can correct it.
If you want,go ahead. But will you know what to do? The external customs are copies of internal actions related to love. So, by striving to reach love of friends that leads to love of the Creator, we traverse those inner actions.
We’re always shown a broken system, on every degree, so that we will want to connect, see that it’s impossible, as we are only the croutons in the soup, which can’t connect without the soup between them, which is the Creator. People are trying in our world to create all kinds of right connections on their own – relationships, political systems. That’s why they’ll never never never work. Not like this, not like that, not a third way. Until we bring the Creator into the connection there is no sanctity in the connection.
No, you don’t have any evil. You’re an angel. Evil is only what I find directly opposing connection in the ten – because that’s my interface with the Creator. So, whatever persuades me to procrastinate on the connection I could already make this very moment, and in the next and next moments, is evil because it’s intentionally pulling me to waste my opportunities. There’s no evil in the past either because it’s all accumulated into the present moment, like a traffic ticket that the city keeps adding fines to. But I pay it all off when I reach connection with the friends.
